You’ve been served Divorce papers…now what?

You’ve been served Divorce papers…now what?

Sometimes divorce is filed after years of separation and is well anticipated. In other cases, it can come as a complete surprise to the person receiving paperwork. After receiving divorce papers, you must take immediate action to protect your legal rights and future.

1. Read the Papers

It’s important that you carefully read over the divorce papers, as they may contain a wealth of information, such as the court where the action was filed. This can be helpful information to know if you and your spouse have been estranged and the divorce is being filed in another state. The divorce papers should also list a deadline by which a response must be provided. Additionally, they will indicate whether your spouse is filing the paperwork on their own if they have retained an attorney.

Additionally, the divorce papers may allege the grounds for divorce, as well as requests by the moving party, including information about child support, spousal support, division of property, child custody and other issues related to the children.

2. Provide a Response

The divorce papers should indicate the number of days that you have to respond to the complaint or petition for divorce. This is usually 28 days, starting from the date when you were actually served with the divorce papers. However, you should be certain on this information. If you allow the deadline pass without responding, your spouse can potentially receive everything they requested in the divorce paperwork. Probably not ideal for you.

Normally, a person will provide a response through his or her attorney. However, if you cannot come up with the funds necessary to retain an attorney, you may have to provide a response on your own. Otherwise, you can forfeit your rights and legal arguments.

3. Hire an Attorney

Divorce can have a dramatic effect on a person’s life, so it’s important to retain legal counsel if at all possible. Even if you receive the paperwork and believe you’re in agreement with the divorce and allegations, a divorce attorney can review the documents and inform you of your legal rights and options. If the case later becomes contested, you’ll have someone who can advocate for your rights.

It’s especially important for you to retain an attorney if your spouse already has.

4. Gather Documents

If your spouse has already contacted a lawyer, they will likely ask you to bring in certain documents when you arrive at the initial hearing or later such as tax records, bank statements, retirement information, payroll information, and other financial information.

5. Protect Your Assets

You should also discuss how you can protect your assets. Some jurisdictions immediately call for all assets to be frozen once a divorce petition is filed with the court.

If your income is directly deposited to a joint account, you should consider setting up a separate bank account and re-routing the funds to this account. You should also pull your credit report to check your financial wellbeing and to see if any recent debt has been taken on of which you weren’t aware.

6. Protect Communications

It’s also extremely important to have your mail rerouted to maintain privacy from your spouse during divorce proceedings. Lawyers may send letters with strategic plans, and this information shouldn’t be revealed to your spouse. A post office box can help protect privacy and confidential communications.

Disclaimer: While every effort has been made to ensure the accuracy of this publication, it is not intended to provide legal advice as individual situations will differ and should be discussed with an expert and/or lawyer.

When parents battle over school districts

When parents battle over school districts

When parents separate or divorce, it can be difficult to agree on various issues. This time of year, children are starting school again and a relatively new disagreement that’s emerging is over the school district the child should attend.

For example, mom may argue that the child should attend the school district where she lives, but dad may then argue that the child should attend the school district where he lives. If no agreement is reached, litigation is sometimes the only option.

Before a parent can jump to litigation, they need to know what the law says. The first thing is that when parents reside in different school districts, the child may attend school in the district of residence of the parent with whom the child lives for a majority of the time.

That means that the school district of the primary custodian is the school district where the child will attend public school. That may seem pretty straight forward. However, there are no easy solutions to any custody issue.

There has been a recent push towards 50/50 physical custody and many parents are exercising this type of arrangement. In cases like this, the parents may choose which of the two school districts the child will enroll for the school year. This is where the fight may be joined.

If one parent resides in a better school district than the other, the smart decision is to agree that the child will go to school in the better district. Typically, the court will hold that the child should attend the higher-ranked school district. However, proving which is the “better” school district often prove to be difficult.

If both parents live in school districts of similar quality, then the decision becomes more of a toss-up. It might be best for the child to go to school in the district where they already know some of the other students or where they have been involved in activities before.

However, unless the parents agree, it’s going to be tough for the court to choose between two school districts of equal caliber.

It’s for that reason that many cases regarding the choice of school district ends up becoming a fight for primary custody.

If you’re a parent with partial physical custody, you’re probably thinking that you have little decision making power when it comes to the school district. You might live in a prominent school district and the other parent may live in the lesser district.

Just because you have partial physical custody, doesn’t necessarily mean the child cannot attend school in your district. Even though a child’s school district is the one of the parent with which the child primarily resides, that can be altered through a court order or a court-approved custody agreement.

A parent with partial custody can negotiate with the other parent to agree that the child attend the high-ranking school district, or the partial custody parent can pursue litigation. The courts take education very seriously.

When it comes down to it, the determining factor will be what is in the best interest of the child. That means giving the child the best education available.

4 Mistakes Made During a Custody Battle

4 Mistakes Made During a Custody Battle

Anytime parents separate and are unable to work out a mutually agreeable parenting plan for their family, they often choose to go to Court seeking a child custody order. When that happens, parents are putting the decision of their children’s future into the hands of a judge who will now decide what plan will be in the best interests of the children.

As you can imagine, a determination like this is very difficult for the judge. Especially when often times they’re faced with allegations from each parent about how the other is unfit or neglectful. The judge must consider the evidence before they come to a conclusion without having any actual personal knowledge or prior relationship with either parent or the children. So, to aid in their analysis, family law courts will often appoint child custody evaluators to assess each party’s claims and to come up with a recommended custody plan.

Unfortunately, it’s all too common that good parents end up being classified as unfit or neglectful based upon the following four avoidable mistakes:

1. Don’t Get Arrested

One of the clearest ways in which a parent can show a judge that he or she is not a fit parent is by getting arrested while the custody dispute is still pending. If a parent is arrested for a violent crime, even if they’re not convicted or charged, they provide the other parent with valuable ammunition to claim that the arrested parent has an anger management problem or is prone to violence. A finding such as this by the judge will almost ensure that the parent won’t be permitted to have unsupervised time with the children.

In turn, if there are allegations of alcohol or substance abuse, then a parent’s arrest for a DUI/DWI or possession of narcotics will most certainly confirm the allegation. If any of the children are present in the vehicle while the parent is driving under the influence or in possession of the narcotics, then the violating parent’s chances of prevailing in the custody battle are certainly lost.

2. Don’t Disobey the Court’s Temporary Custody Orders

A lot of times, the Court will issue a temporary interim custody order at the onset of a divorce or paternity action. This usually will remain in place until there’s a trial. Interim orders can govern the physical timeshare of the child or children between the parties, as well as the decision-making power of each parent, and other custody issues.

One of the worst mistakes that can be made is to disobey the Court’s temporary orders. For example, a parent might fail to return the children by the specified time. Or, a parent might remove the children from the state without the permission of the other party or a court order allowing them to do so. In either instance, the other parent will surely bring the matter to the Court’s attention to show that the violating parent doesn’t respect the Court’s authority. A message like that typically doesn’t go over well with judges and will surely have an impact on their final decision.

3. Be Careful What You Say On Social Media

All too often, parents will turn to social media while in the midst of a custody battle to vent their frustrations, slander the other parent, or even something as simple as showing their friends the fun they’re having in their newly single lives. However, social media is just that…“social” and is not private. The information and images posted on social media are available to the entire general public (which includes the other parent and their attorney).

Some of the best evidence of a parent having a substance abuse problem can be provided through a single “selfie” of the parent looking visibly intoxicated or in the act of using drugs.

Most importantly, any posts that show the parent speaking poorly of the other parent, the other attorney, or the judge provide excellent ammunition to be used in court. A good general rule is to never post something on social media that you would not be comfortable having a judge read or displayed in open court.

4. Be Reasonable

The most common mistake occurs when a parent refuses to communicate with or co-parent with the other parent. If parents can’t agree on joint legal custody, then the judge might look to see if one parent should have sole decision-making authority due to the other’s inability to co-parent. If that’s the case, then a parent who refuses to communicate with the other runs the risk of being deemed the “problem” parent who therefore should not be given a say in the important decisions pertaining to the children.

The best course of action for a parent is to present him or herself as a cooperative, reasonable adult who is trying their best to maintain an open line of communication regarding the children.